Rom's Substack

Some Women Have a Need to Nurture

Rom Wills — Thu, 11 Jun 2026 10:11:12 GMT

When we talk about the game of man gets women, regardless of who is doing the talking, the conversation focuses on what the man can do to be the best version of himself. Whether that is developing his physicality, his social skills, or increasing his money or status, men hear that they must become better. There nothing wrong with that in my eyes. I promote becoming the best version of one self. Keep in mind what I always say though. This is an art and not a science. Nothing is absolute. Sometimes a woman might not want a man who is the best version of himself. She wants a man she can nurture.

Being Assertive as a Man

Rom Wills — Thu, 04 Jun 2026 09:38:14 GMT

A major issue in today’s dating and relationship scene is that many men are not assertive. I don’t mean being the type of man who will boss a woman around. I also don’t mean the type of man who will be loud and boisterous. A man can be soft spoken and yet be assertive. When I say be assertive, I mean the type of man who the type of man who will take the initiative to get things done. Let me provide an example.

Men Get Played by a Woman’s Beauty

Rom Wills — Wed, 27 May 2026 22:59:01 GMT

The thought that women don’t have game and get what they want out of a man is ludicrous. Women got game. If we are being real about it, most men are seen as marks to women. Indeed, many men will argue about women not having game and at the same time be preparing to take a young lady to an expensive restaurant. The man saved three paychecks to take her out and of course when they get to the restaurant the young lady will taste the food and then get a doggy bag. She will not have the man take her home. Rather she will have her date take her to another man’s house in a bad neighborhood and say that’s her “cousin.” Yeah right. The man who took her out just got played. So why did he get played?

What Women Really See in a Man’s Face

Rom Wills — Thu, 21 May 2026 10:07:54 GMT

As much as I’m known for talking about Body Game, I have never once said women didn’t look at a man’s face. I have said several times that women look at everything on a man. Obviously, that includes his face. The most I have said about the face is that different women consider different types of faces handsome. Despite what many people want to believe looks are not objective. The big thing is that when a woman is looking at a man’s face, she is not just looking at his physical features. She wants to get an idea about his personality.

That Whole Thing About Height

Rom Wills — Thu, 14 May 2026 10:03:54 GMT

I can’t be on social media for one day without seeing something about height. Of course I’m looking for nice looking young ladies with thick thighs. Which save lives. What I find most often is either women saying they want some extra tall man or young men complaining that they are not extra tall. Indeed, many young men think it’s over for them if them if they are not over 6 feet tall. Many men will wear shoe lifts to make themselves look taller. Hmmm, that might be something to invest in. Many men routinely add two inches to their heights. A 5’10” man will say he is 6 feet. Of course, in a video someone will measure his correct height. He is probably shorter than 5’10” because he is being measured with his shoes on. That height thing is crazy for several reasons.

Confidence Isn’t Cliché

Rom Wills — Thu, 07 May 2026 10:03:54 GMT

We have the term, “Just be confident” when dealing with women. It sounds good but many men don’t believe in this advice. I can understand why. They are thinking they can’t be confident when they are average as far as their looks, their height, and their body build. On top of that they don’t make six figures or have celebrity status. I get it. Many men do not feel like they have what it takes to get the ladies. They don’t want to hear it when someone says, “Just be confident.” Well, I will tell men to be confident and will explain why I give that advice. Confidence is not cliché.

Many Women Want Excitement

Rom Wills — Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:04:44 GMT

One thing with most women is they want excitement in their lives. They want the men in their lives to excite them. Of course, I say most women because there is always an exception. Most though, do not want a boring life. Yes, many women want to be made love to with rose petals and candles. Every now and then though a man needs to pull the mattress into the living room and wait for his lady to get home. When she gets home he needs to throw her on the mattress and go for it like he just got out of prison.

Social Class, Subcultures, and Relationships

Rom Wills — Thu, 23 Apr 2026 10:13:38 GMT

So you are walking down the street. Listening to that song on your smartphone and thinking about what you are going to eat for lunch. That’s when you see her. That beautiful woman with that killer body. She is so fine that you would get down on that ground and make love to her shadow. You do what any red-blooded heterosexual man would do. You immediately approach her. At least a man who has been reading my materials. There’s only one problem. It’s not that she doesn’t find you attractive. In her eyes you don’t fit into her social class.

Develop Your Signature Style

Rom Wills — Thu, 16 Apr 2026 10:20:28 GMT

Despite what many men think, women look for more on a man beside a handsome face and a toned body. The vast majority of men don’t spend their time on a beach or even live near one for that matter. We can’t show those washboard abs to any woman on the street. Well unless you live in a rough area that also has good weather year round. You see a lot in rough areas. That’s another essay though. The bottom line is we all have to wear clothes. A major part of any man’s physical presentation is his personal style or as I say it, his signature style.

Body Game

Rom Wills — Thu, 09 Apr 2026 10:49:05 GMT

Body Game. I’m known more for Body Game than anything else. Some people have referred to me as the Godfather of Body Game. It’s a very simple concept. Women are turned on by Men’s bodies. There are tricks to this. Women get sexually excited by different parts of a man’s body. Some women like muscular arms. Some like a big chest. Others like a strong back. There are women who get excited about a man’s legs. I didn’t get the concept of Body Game from men. It was women who told me about Body Game.

Many Women Want Security

Rom Wills — Thu, 02 Apr 2026 10:39:32 GMT

One of the main things that many women want from men is security. They want to feel secure in his presence. I say many because there is always an exception. There is always a woman who doesn’t need anything from a man other that he stays out of her way. As I always say that’s a conversation for another day. Most, however, want a man who makes them feel secure. To be clear that security does not come in the same form with every woman.

Women Want a Man Who Can Satisfy Their Basic Dual Needs

Rom Wills — Thu, 26 Mar 2026 09:47:35 GMT

There’s a powerful secret that my international bestseller, Nice Guys and Players, contains in its pages. The secret is in the title itself. Women want a man who is both a Nice Guy and a Player. I remember I was doing a televised panel and before the show me and a lady panelist got into a big argument because she didn’t like the title of my book. We calmed down enough to do the show and after I explained the contents of the book she calmly said, “I want a Nice Player.”

Women Place Men into Categories

Rom Wills — Thu, 19 Mar 2026 09:52:22 GMT

One of the things I’m known for internationally is the Select Paradigm. I point out that as a whole, women put men into two general categories: Select and Non-Select. The men who seen as Select are generally more sexually appealing to women. As a group they are more handsome with good body builds. In some cases, they may be more successful financially and thus have a respected status, particularly in Western culture. The men who are considered Non-Select are generally not seen as physically appealing and they definitely lack money and status.

Women Check Out Everything on a Man

Rom Wills — Thu, 12 Mar 2026 10:28:28 GMT

I’m known for doing videos talking about Body Game. A major part of my philosophy is that a man should build his body into the best version he can build for himself. I also say that Body Game is just the foundation. Other aspects are needed for a man’s presentation. Invariably, someone will write in the comments that a man just needs a handsome face to get the attention of women. Women will check out a man’s face, but they don’t stop at his neck. Women look at EVERYTHING on a man.

A Woman’s Vanity

Rom Wills — Thu, 05 Mar 2026 10:55:04 GMT

Women are vain. They want to be the center of attention. It’s not good or bad. It just is. It’s their nature. There is a major reason why the beauty industry is not concerned about a recession. Whether it is makeup, lipstick, or a something to make their hair look real nice, ladies will do something to draw attention to themselves. In my book, Nice Guys and Players, I wrote about a time I was in a park in downtown Washington, DC. The park had several bike messengers gathered after their workday. An attractive young lady with a yellow dress was walking through the crowd of messengers. They did what normal men would do in that situation. They were catcalling like a champ. I was feeling bad for her until I saw where she was walking. She could have easily avoided walking through those young men. She wanted their attention.

A Woman's Choice

Rom Wills — Thu, 26 Feb 2026 10:57:53 GMT

The thing a man has to realize about getting women is that women choose the men they want. Players know this. Indeed, even Pimps know. No matter how you look at this, women make a choice as to the men they want to be with. Of course, many men either don’t want to believe this, or they think they get to choose the women they want from the start. Now men do get a choice in the matter but that’s later on in the process. Let me deal with the mistaken belief that women don’t have a choice.

Who is Rom Wills?

Wed, 18 Feb 2026 18:40:36 GMT

Hello there! Now know you are probably asking that question. Who is this Rom Wills dude anyway? Some people already know and are wondering why I’m starting off this way. For those who don’t know, I have a popular YouTube channel as well as a couple of Patreon pages and an on-demand page and a web TV channel. Wow, that is many web footprints. …